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What You Bring To The Table

Thanksgiving is next week, and soon we’ll all be sitting around a dinner table(or in my case the “grown-up kids” table). For my family, we bring a couple of coolers of food to go along with everything prepared. About 20-30 of us gather around a circle, pray, and then split up into our little tables and groups. But when we all sit down and bring our plates to the table, we’re also bringing so much more. So in this post, I want to consider three things we’re each bringing to that Thanksgiving table.

The Past Year

First, we bring everything we have been through up to this point this year. Every experience, every relationship, every break-up, every high, every low, everything ends up at that table. I’m coming in at the best point of my life so far. I’m reasonably sure that everyone at the table won’t share my sentiment. So there needs to be a balance between being grateful about how well this year has gone and being sympathetic to those around us who haven’t had the same fortune I have. So there’s a balance I think we all need to consider as sit around the table and share life.

Struggles & Fears

Everyone is always struggling with something or afraid of something. For me, I struggle with giving my calling everything I can while still making sure that I am investing in relationships with people. There is always this persist fear that things will never work out or even if they do, it will be too little and too late. Others are coming to the table with fear of spending the rest of their lives alone, wondering if they chose the wrong career, or gave up on their dreams. Some struggles and fears are very public: a divorce, the loss of a job, others and hidden far beneath the surface. We all the unique opportunity to speak into those things and encourage our friends and families this time of a year.

The Potential For The Future

One of the cool things about the holiday season is that reflection gives way to anticipation(something I will probably write about more soon). The one thing that we can all bring to the Thanksgiving table this year is hope. No matter how hard this year has been the future always offers us a chance at redemption. Things change every year and some years are better than others. We can always point others to the truth that the best is yet to come in life. I know for me the best year of my life came immediately after the worst year of life. For some of us, this year has been amazing, and we can look back at new friends, new opportunities, and dream of future possibilities. Hope and optimism for the future, coupled with gratitude for the past make us all more thankful.

Most importantly this Thanksgiving bring yourself to the table. Not the self you portray online, not a hollow shell that is present everywhere except the place that you actually are, not the self is too afraid to be authentic. Bring your hopes, your struggles, your dreams, and most importantly bring your heart to the table. It’s why we all gather together.

Thanks Y’all,

Paul

November 13, 2018 0 comment

Life

Thanksgiving and the Spirit of Gratitude

written by paulwrock

As we enter into the final months of the year, our hearts start to reflect on everything that has happened this year. The new friends we’ve made, the lessons we’ve learned, and the changes both joyous and challenging that we never expected. And eventually, we point our headlights towards our hometowns to celebrate Thanksgiving. I hope that Thanksgiving is not just a day that we celebrate once a year, but rather a posture of the heart throughout the year. In this post, I want to share a quick reflection about how thankfulness informs our past, present, and future.

The Past

First thankfulness helps give our past a positive context for reflection. We’ve all been through difficult things. No one comes to a Thanksgiving table without scars from wounds suffered during the year. For some of us, those wounds are embodied by a person who died too soon. Others feel the loss of a job they no longer have. Many more miss someone who chose to walk away. But regardless of what we’ve been through, we’re still here. We made it this far, and that is something to be grateful for. Beyond that, most of us can look back and see how God has been faithful to us this year. For the Israelites, it meant collecting stones from a riverbed to remember kept promises. For me, it tends to come by looking pictures of things that happened that I would never have expected. Whatever it may be, find a way to reflect on the past with gratitude. It will give you confidence for the present.

The Present

As we look at the present, our gratitude should inform how we live. Because I am grateful to make a living doing something I love, I want to work with excellence. The more I consider the gifts of life and health, the more I want to give my all when I workout. The more I consider how blessed I am to be surrounded by talented musicians the more I want to be an excellent songwriter. I believe that gratitude inspires greatness. As we are reminded, “Everyone to whom much was given, of him much will be required, and from him to whom they entrusted much, they will demand the more.” – Luke 12:48

The Future

Finally, I think our gratitude for both the past and present should give us hope for the future. When we consider where we have been, and where we are, we should have tremendous optimism for where we are going. After Thanksgiving, we start to look towards Christmas and then on to the New Year. As we consider 2019: all the memories we will make, surprises we could never have imagined, and all the changes that lie ahead I hope we are full of gratitude. May we never lose sight of the fact that The Great Author is writing our stories, and He writes really good stories.

I’m grateful to each of you that took the time to read this.

Thanks Y’all,

Paul

November 7, 2018 0 comment

Life

All For One: When The Who Becomes The Why

written by paulwrock

Hey Y’all,

I firmly believe that nothing will ever exceed it’s intended purpose. Our “what” will never exceed our “why.” So whatever we pursue in life, it should be fueled by a high level of intention. I often ask writers, artists, and speakers who I work with “why do you write?” or “who do you write for?” These questions not only shape the direction of our work but also give me a window into the heart of the person I am working with. I believe that if one person is affected positively by something I write/do/or say it was worth the effort. I also believe that we should be as effective as possible in how we do things. So how do you stay focused on the one person, but not lose sight of the broader audience? That’s what I want to address in this post.

Whatever You Do, Do It For The One

Whatever we do we should do it for a single person. It’s much easier to write a song for a person than it is for a faceless mass market. It also makes for a better song because it humanizes the process in a new way. If you’re dealing with clients or customers, it helps to think of them as individuals. We all want to be seen, known, and valued. So aim to create products, services, and experiences that will touch individuals in some way. For me, that means writing songs for people, particular people going through hard situations.

The most meaning songs I’ve written have were written for people going through hard times. Those are also typically the ones with the broadest appeal. Likewise, the love songs that I write are usually based on whoever I’m in love with at the time. Those also tend to be the ones that my audience relate to the most. The best way to resonate with an individual is to write for an individual. So keep that in mind as you do whatever it is that you do.

See The Value Of Your Work In Terms Of A Single Person

One of the most meaning moments of my songwriting career came when my buddy Jed Bayes and I performed “Hannah’s Song” for her mother. Hannah was a fellow student with us in college and had died in a tragic accident. Jed and I wrote a song about her and God’s plan for her life. We had the opportunity to play it live for the first time, for her mother. Her mom said the song had helped her heal from the pain of losing Hannah. At that moment I knew that if I accomplished nothing else in music, it would’ve been worth it.

Whatever product, service, or experience you offer, make it meaningful for your consumers. Create moments that stay with people. Find ways to take the ordinary and make it extraordinary. One of the books I recommend you on this is The Power Of Moments by Chip and Dan Heath. This book really zeros in on how to create these types of things. Whatever you do, make sure it adds value to at least one person, and let that one person be worth the work.

Once You’ve Focused On One, Focus On Every One

Every person matters, so every person should be touched by what you create. To me, this is fundamental to marketing. You need to have things that are worth sharing and will affect as many individual lives as possible. When you launch a product that will meet a consumer need, it is your job to share it. When you write a song that can help someone, it is your job to make sure it gets heard. If you have a compelling story(which we all do), it is your job to tell it.

Ultimately every time someone benefits from what you do, it is a great feeling. It’s a huge part of why we exist as people. Because we love the individuals we serve(our target market), we want to help as many of them as possible. Once we have created something meaningful, we want to do as much good as we possibly can with it. So once you’ve helped one, help everyone you can.

I hope this has helped. As we continue to work towards our unique goals, I would love to get your thoughts. How do you focus on one person? Let me know in the comments sections.

Paul

April 18, 2018 0 comment

Life

When The Journey Becomes The Destination

written by paulwrock

Hey Y’all,

For many of us, pursuing our calling can seem like an endless chase. We continuously work, without knowing if we will ever arrive, or what arriving would mean. Whether we have started a business, are trying to raise a family, or in my case write songs, the grind can seem endless. It’s not that we don’t enjoy our pursuit, after all, we choose to give our lives to these passions. It’s that we long for a destination that we have not yet reached. So how do we make sense of the situation? What should inspire us to keep going? Should we keep going?

The first thing is that the journey is, in fact, the destination. In his book Shoe Dog, Phil Knight the founder of Nike says the following about running ” When you run down an oval track, or down an empty road, you have no real destination. The act itself becomes the destination. It’s not that there’s no finish line; it’s that you define the finish line.” This is so important to remember. The end goal in music is to be a touring artist. To embark on a journey across the world, that hopefully doesn’t end. Once a person becomes a parent, they never cease to be one. For so many of us, our life’s goal leads us to a daily struggle, a routine, or path that doesn’t seem to end. It’s in the moments when we wonder if we’ll make it, that we must remember that we are making it. One step at a time.

The second thing is to struggle well on the journey. Journeys imply struggle. The stories we love to read about the most are the ones where heroes facing incredible challenges, and still found a way forward. The greater the struggle, the greater the journey. This is true not only in literature but in life as well. While we celebrate those who overcome their struggles, our struggles seem far less glorious. We so often long for the day when we won’t struggle anymore. However, this is not the correct view as Ray Dalio explains, in his book Principles “While I surpassed my wildest dreams decades ago, I am still struggling today. In time, I realized that the satisfaction of success doesn’t come from achieving your goals, but from struggling well.” The question we need to wrestle with is not “how do I avoid struggle on my journey?” but rather “how do I struggle well on my journey?” If we can figure out how to struggle well, we can live out our journey to it’s fullest potential.

The third thing to remember is that the journey gets better. There are higher highs that you have yet to experience. There are lower lows that will strengthen your resolve. There are new friends to make, and lessons you have yet to learn. One of the quotes that became a banner for me as I moved to Nashville comes from C.S. Lewis “There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind.” That was the last thing I read in my driveway in Atlanta. That was the first thing I posted on Instagram. That was what got me to leave the Peach State and start my journey in Music City. Whatever journey you’re on, I promise it will get better. Ultimately, it will make you better, and that makes the journey worth it.

Remember, your journey is your destination, learn to struggle well, and the journey will get better. We’re all on a journey. Travel yours well, and help others along the way.

I hope this resonates with you in some way. What have you learned about your own journey? What principles have guided you? What advice would you share? Let me know in the comments section.

Paul

March 6, 2018 0 comment